Hundreds of movies and books are filled with stories of "love potions", tales of "true love" and even miracles that happen when people perform extraordinary deeds – all for love. What if you could bottle up a "love potion" and preserve an unending supply of it for your family?
This is no fairy tale…
Love contains a potent power that transcends time and distance… it can actually be measured scientifically!
Scientists have proven Love's ability to bring peace, healing, and an overall "good feeling" to the person receiving the love… but also the person giving the love. People witnessing the act of love receive the exact same measurable benefit as the one giving and receiving the love!
A hormone called "Oxytocin" is released when someone smiles, hugs, kisses, or in some way loves us. Doing a good deed for someone releases this powerful chemical… sometimes called the "love hormone". One of the simplest and easiest ways to bring joy, healing, and a sense of well being to our families is to write love letters.
Have you received a love letter lately? If someone has given you a love letter, you've received a treasure of great value… one that is worth preserving forever! The best part about publishing a love letter in your Life Story is that it becomes part of your legacy to the next generation.
Love letters are the perfect way to say "I love you" because they can be saved for years, even generations… and the potency never diminishes or expires!
Each time you read a love letter your mind, body, and soul are saturated with the love hormone, oxytocin! Oxytocin makes you feel good and it builds your immune system. Oxytocin is reported to be the world's best anti-aging ingredient and we each need about 30 "points" of oxytocin every day to be healthy. A good hug, smile, or kiss is generally worth about 3-points… and whether we are giving, receiving, or witnessing the love, each person benefits!
Would your world look and feel a little better with more oxytocin released in your family's lives?
What releases Oxytocin? A smile, a hug, a touch… a love letter!
Here are some ideas I recently heard discussed among friends who are pursuing outrageously happy marriages:
One husband leaves for work before his wife wakes up, so he wrote a love note on the toilet paper!
Another husband drew a heart on a steamy bathroom mirror.
One couple leaves steamy messages via texting on their cell phones.
One wife makes his special dinner.
My husband (who never liked tatoos much) had a heart tatooed on his forearm with our initials on it!
These people are living extraordinary lives – they are going beyond the "average" and aiming – every day – for outrageously happy marriages and families. Just think of the security their children are feeling as they watch this happening before their eyes!
Would you like a really good dose of Oxytocin right now? The following video is hilarious! It's a story of one mother who gave her teenage daughter a love letter that has never been forgotten… and how that love letter is changing the world. Watch Amanda Gore teach about "Zooties" … and catch some yourself!
Did you get your "Zooties" today? It sounds more user-friendly than "oxytocin" but it really means the same, doesn't it?
Every day we are living a legacy in front of our kids, whether they are in our home or a thousand miles away. This legacy contains our life experiences – how we responded, what we learned, and how we've benefited and grown… as well as photos, videos, letters, and other memorabilia. It's the stuff of every day life… so ordinary that many times we forget to document it!
Through the trials, the fun times, the silly and goofy days, and the deep and meaningful occasions, every moment is logged in our memories… but those memories are vulnerable to age, dementia, or physical loss.
I'm writing my life story book right alongside you! As I select photos to add to my love letters, my heart swells with gratitude for every year I've had with my husband and children… with my parents and siblings… with my friends. By taking the time to document our lives, we are setting up the next generation to benefit endlessly from our invaluable life experience.
This year let's write love letters that will launch our children into their destiny.
We can offer words of blessing that will heal their hearts and nourish their spirits. As you know, the words we heard from our own parents have helped to shape our own lives, for good or for otherwise! Too many times as parents we get short-tempered with our kids and words stream out that we regret. Wouldn't it be nice to put into writing the words we intentionally want our children to hear – over and over again?
To write a love letter is really pretty simple and doesn't take much time!
Simply focusing on the greatness in each other and calling it out, naming it… makes it multiply! What we focus on multiplies.
Is there someone you know who could use some words of love and encouragement? Maybe someone who may have never received a love letter. Is there someone who has lost a loved one this past year? Perhaps it's their first Valentine's Day without a spouse…
Whatever the occasion or circumstance, this year is the perfect year to begin a new tradition, if you've never written love letters or letters of blessing before. Including them in your Life Story Book is a cinch! Register to receive your free "All-in-One" Life Story Book Kit and you'll get instant access to everything you need to create a living legacy and publish it in a gorgeous full-color Life Story Book!
What if we each lived Valentine's Day every day?
For more information and resources to help you start on the journey to writing your life story, we have a FREE "All-in-One" Life Story Book Kit we'd love to share with you.. This kit was designed to help you preserve the golden nuggets of your valuable life experiences and to craft your stories into a gorgeous full-color Life Story Book that will certainly become a valuable family heirloom to be shared with the next generation… a living family legacy. Get instant access to your FREE "All-in-One" Life Story Book Kit by registering your first name and best email below!
Susan D McKenzie is passionate about families – constantly learning and seeking ways to help heal the heart of the family. She writes articles, memoirs, personal essays and loves to mentor people of all ages in the art of storytelling.
I am trusting and knowing my Father in Heaven in a different new way.... I'm so grateful that God invited you to be that stranger in my room by leading me to your web site. Stranger no more! What an honor it is for me to have you in my life.
Thank you for sitting in silence with me and also offering your shoulder to weep on. Thank you for screaming for justice in my life and for the six that I love so much. Thank you for extending God's beautiful redemption of love to me. I am alive because I prayed and God sent you to demonstrate so much to me. I know that I don't even have the full picture yet. Thank you for living what you write and speak. Your testimony is true and your life has so much fruit. I'm so blessed that God looked at me and loved me so much to put you in the midst of my life, during the darkest moments… thank you for shining His light. -- Melissa
Yes, Yes, YES to these words of LIFE and hope!!
You are story teller down to your bones, Susan. What a gift that you are championing others to tell their stories too. We've all become too accustomed to living in crisis and accepted it as "just the way things are." It takes people like who are willing to shake off the blankets and rise out of slumber to point to a better way. Thank you, friend. -- Angela
I just wanted to say thank you again for the in credible way in which you were present for me when I needed you most. You were immediately present and totally available to listen and support. I know that in your heart you know this is a gift you have to offer others, but I want to completely affirm that. It is rare and felt like perfume to my stinking mess of a heart. So thank you again. -- NH
I believe that all it takes for evil to prosper is for good men and women to do nothing. So if I remain silent is the evil allowed to continue? I just don’t know. If I expose the evil of someone who is now dead does it help anyone but me? Again, I just don’t know. Here’s what I know: I read your story and it helped ME because I realized I am not alone. Your story awakened me to the reality that the line of BS I had been fed was, in fact, BS. Your story led me to stability in that I no longer thought I was a freak because of what was happening to me. I realized that I was not the problem, someone else was MY problem. Because you were brave enough to share your truth I found the courage to stand up for mine. I am digging deeper and writing other truths. I will post them as the Lord leads because I believe His timing is perfect. Thank you, Sue, for being there for me. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. -- Joyce
God's words through you have been pivotal in helping me make the internal shift necessary away from the shame and guilt, I'm just lost for words to tell you how much of an impact they had and are having. - R.H.
I love your website and the work that you do. When we can write from a place of power, especially about those things that hurt us, it reframes it beautifully. I've often struggled with faith, wondered why bad things happen to good people, and while I haven't always found answers to those questions, I have found that if my faith is active, I feel better about the world, I find meaning and joy instead of hurt and pain. I felt that reading your work, and that helps me reframe my life and heal. It's powerful. -- Aubrey
Susan, this is beautiful! There are so many women out there who need this kind of inspiration, support, and encouragement to rise up! (As we know, this rising up cannot be done alone.) I just know you are going to help empower so many others to find their lost voices and to learn to live fully as God created them to live. I hope to be joining you in this venture. -- Emily
I have chills. You are a strong, wonderful woman. I don't know you, and somehow I've stumbled onto your blog and am in tears. You inspire me to rewrite my own story, to take write new endings to the traumas I have experienced. Thank you. God Bless you. ~ Megan E
You so encourage me to be creative and have impacted my life is no many ways so thank you! - Patricia
What an amazing way to describe a wound Susan. 'A window for the glory of God' - Isn't that what God's healing is all about? That's exactly why you are such a bright light in so many other women's dark place. With God's help you have turned your pain into power and can help those who are still feeling battered and bruised. You take a glimmer of hope and turn it into a firework display! – Carolyn Hughes
I found your website via Profligate truth website and have been soaking up your wisdom. I am a younger woman (29) but survived a difficult family life with a father who let evil grow in his heart from a small creature to a dragon of destruction. Pray for me that the Lord would open doors to spread the truth I have learned about the goodness of God and the need for true repentance, not false grace. Much love. - Katie
Silence has always been the weapon of abusive people and systems. I am so thankful that Susan, with her tenderness and courage, is willing to speak into the darkness in order that others may know they do not need to suffer in silence, whether it be by the hand of an individual or a entire system that attacks the messenger/victim who is willing to expose the truth. -- David Grant
The tangible reality of your experiences leave me speechless and humbled. ~ Filip Vd Ende @ whohesaysthatiam.wordpress.com/
Hi Sue – Because of your web site, I found hope. And because I found hope, I was able to minister to my girlfriend this weekend and point her in the same direction.... I am so looking forward to an opportunity to read your book and to spend some time with you. I know you have a great gift and I would so enjoy your company.... truly feel I have found a real friend. You are a wonder!
Susan, as I read 'A Wasted Life" I wept and rejoiced at the same time. It is a story so similar to my life, and the Father's response remarkably like what He has spoken to my heart so many times. I have given up on all my dreams, but now, with the blessing of finding your site and the hope that comes from Father, I dare to hope that someday, I may dream again. Someday, I may actually be able to use my energies for something I want to do rather than having them sucked out of me so that someone else can do what they want. Bless you for sharing. - J.L.
You are a Brave and Beautiful one! Keep sharing the story. It matters deeply! -- Marvia Davidson
I am always amazed at your writings. All the things you have been through, yet you are able to see His Hand in the way He connects all things for our food. God is amazing! And you are amazing, using the gifts He’s given you, to share them here with us! Thank you Susan! -- Cyn Rogalski -- CynRogalsi.com
WoW oh WoW Susan, I am intrigued and want to read more. This is good. Keep at it. You had my attention from beginning to the end. I could feel the tension and the suspense. I even think my heart beat a little bit faster. Way to use the power of words to draw the reader into the tale!!!
Fiction isn't a writing form with it I am very comfortable, but you are inspiring me to think differently about how to share the story. -- Marvia Davidson at Humanimpulse.wordpress.com.
Oh my Susan, just imagine if it was not for the 30 Day Challenge we would never have met.
I'm freaking out a biy to see the paralells in our lives. In the middle 80's somebody told me that my Life would be a Bridge and I didn't want to be one, because of all the traffic going over it. I'll resurrect that post especially for you. And then Sandi Krakowski, must admit she was too fast for me and I needed more of a foundational hands on approach with my Blogging.
How did you become proficient with the Thesis Theme. I abondaned mine but would like to use it, as I feel it is a very personal one.
Did you ever hear of Graham Cook, I've the feeling you might like him.
Thanks again for your messages and if you don't see me commenting, I'm reading your blog daily. -- Gertraud Walters -LifeBeginsAtChange.com
Because of u for the first time im not ashamed! For the person i have become today! That i can finaly face the pain! - Mike M
Oh, Susan, you are so inspiring. Your courage feeds the well for every other soul who reads here. Shine on! -- Esther Emery - EstherEmery.com
I look forward to being able to read your book. I have a feeling it might take me some time to read. A bit like when you go out for a nice meal.. you enjoy your meal one bite at a time. -- William O'Toole - WilliamOToole.com
Thank you for your courage in writing this. The grooming scenario you endured is much like the one I endured, and I had no idea I was being slowly lured and then entrapped by my abusive pastor's tactics. There are far too many people who cannot believe a faith leader would be capable of clergy sexual abuse, and that's the problem. Congregations must be educated about CSA, including grooming "signs." Your story is very important. Thank you. ~ Anonymous
Love you! So proud and happy that you have come this far. You are paving the way for so many women and I hope you continue to do well with your writing because it touches me. ~ Carrie
Thank you for your articles! Funny how I never connected healing & getting better with truth & releasing false perceptions! ~ J.S.
Susan, you have a wonderful way of writing and I thoroughly enjoyed reading your story today. I walked with you as you unfolded and rewrote your story and resonated with your words, knowing that I too decided many years ago that my story must change and I wouldn't let the abuse from my past define me. Blessings to you for coming out! It took me almost 20 years, but God took my mess and turned me into His messenger. ~ Trish Jones, TrishJohnes.com
Thank you for sharing….how beautiful your words of encouragement are, they are like honey and a balm to sooth and heal the soul. May God bless you more and more my dear Susan! Much love! -- Sally
I look forward to reading your post every day – my daily dose. You are a writer and so inspiring too.
Once again thank you for sharing your life with us.... Truly inspiring. ~ Yetunde
I read this on my cell phone and every part of it rang true. I'm referring to your blog on sociopaths. I wanted to thank you for sharing about this.
May God Bless and Keep You
You are so kind my precious our sweet friend. I must say Susan, that I do not think YOU as well have any idea of how powerful YOUR words are. I read your life stories on your web page and am in awe of how you can take both the joy and anguish of life and turn it into a life lesson, a truth that we can cling to in our darkest and most desperate hours as you bring to light the VERY nature of God's immutability , His steadfastness to us as His children.
You help others see that though the vicissitudes of life surround us, God is ALWAYS faithful to cause His glory to shine through us. Your words remind ME that God is trustworthy and faithful to the end even to the end of ourselves!! I LOVE YOU and LOVE GOD that He speaks through you in these ways! [♥] ~ Kimberly Dimick
Susan, it's a great treat to read what's on your heart and how you are coming to the end of the tunnel unto the other side and in full light. You are an amazing writer and artist really! It's an art to be able to take thoughts, feelings and situations and make them into a work of art like you did here.
You are a very brave and courageous lady! I have always loved your heart and so glad your testimony and story is coming alive and will be read by many. This is a real breakthrough time. I am a proud friend. I absolutely cannot wait to read your book and wish it would be for sale so people can actually hold a copy in their hands and give some away. There is such secrecy to this abused life and these ladies have to come out of the cave! I am with you on this one. Good work. ~ Jeanne Costello (http://thepassionatepearl.wordpress.com/)
"I enjoy these storys so much they brighten my day thanks can't wait for the next =)" - Lexi Dennis
You reel readers in immediately each time, then get them comfortable in the stride (albeit frantic) of the narrative, then throw them an unexpected turn (escaping from a school, not some closed institution). Great work, Sue! -- Sharon O'Day SharonOday.com
Beautiful as always Susan. Your writing is so inspirational and remember that Papa God is a great economist … He never let's an experience go by, good or bad, that we can't use for His Glory and so keep shining bright. You would be surprised how many abused women (and men) are out there who need your help and advice. ~ Trish Jones
"These are not blog posts- they are chapters in a book & you will impact many lives & be on television & make millions with your God Susan!" -- Sandi Krakowski - ARealChange.com
What a blessing you are to me Susan, I love your living family legacy, Thank you for your words of truth and your desire to see the body of Christ healed and transformed, I feel it in your writings. You're precious
Love Denise Groethe
Susan you have such a gift…your writing is always so interesting and has a way of coming alive. You are so courageous to put yourself out there to help others. It has to be hard to put yourself out there at times but your desire to bless others overpowers that. You have a beautiful soul! -- Sue Glashower BlessedByScents.com
And I think the five year plan is a good idea too. - Juliet
Susan, I'm such a fan of your writing. Even your blog comments are beautiful. What an amazing gift you have to take such difficult subject matter and write about it so beautifully. -- Ron Cross TheMusicMinistryCoach.com
once again you floor me with your writting.. from you heart right to the readers hearts! thank you for sharing this! -- Penny
You are those one of kind type of people Susan, I have never asked that and I am not sure if I could do this. You have a heart for the broken hearted that's for sure. -- Olga Hermans TheChoiceDrivenLife.com
It is a dangerous…and WONDERFUL thing to hear the voice of the Almighty and know that your role in the kingdom is to serve those most at risk! -- Matthew Reed MatthewReedCoaching.com
Preach it sister! When Christians stand up & deliver God's power through redemptive powers of love & spiritual gifts- THE WORLD CHANGES!!!
This is a timely message sister. KEEP BRINGING THE TRUTH! -- Jenny Shain RedeemingDreams.com
Yes! 'Family is the backbone of society.' When we look at our world today and are tempted to point fingers to the government, society or even the elite wealthy, we must acknowledge the power parents hold by the way we raise our children. 'WE' are the government and society and through the power of choice given to each of us by the Almighty we can make changes! Excellent article! -- Denny Hagel MissingSecrettoParenting.com
"I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this and see great value in creating your own Life Story Book. As I get older and my children grow, it becomes ever so important to document and cherish our Life Journey together :) Thanks!" LaTalya Palmer-Lewis
Some parts of your story sound like mine. I wonder why anyone would say the words "I want you yo suffer". I heard those words so many times in my marriage. I thought I was alone.
Thank you for sharing. I know we have a heavenly Father who heals.
I look forward to your posts everyday. Therapy for me. ~ Y
"Sue, when I opened my book it was like I was reading someone else's story - and it drew me right in. I used to wonder, 'Would anyone ever want to hear my story?' But as I opened this book it was just like I couldn't stop reading - and I read my story as if it were someone else and I loved it!" S C
Jeanne shared:"You have a gift for listening and drawing out my story. You've made it easy!"
Andrea S. shared: "This is a gift you have, Sue. I didn't know where to start but in just talking with you it all started coming together."
Susan B shared: "I have just entered the unashamed phase and am empowered in it! As often happens, the timing of reading your article is interesting (for lack of a better word in my thoughts right now).
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